About
Welcome! We’re a community in London dedicated to fostering local connection for women, girls, dads and families experiencing the early loss of a mum. We have the lived experience of growing up without our mums and have been meeting all over London since 2014, sharing our experiences, friendship, resources and plenty of laughs. There’s a warmth and a magic that happens when we get together; an instant recognition, sense of loyalty and a natural mentoring that develops between us.
We offer peer support meetups for adult motherless daughters who experienced the loss young. Since winning a grant we’re also now working on a Wellness and Connection programme for groups motherless daughters in London, aged 13 to 21. We also offer school talks and bereavement training. Our intention is to honour and mobilise our experience to improve outcomes and strengthen community around the early loss of mothering.
What & Why
Losing a mum early is one of the toughest experiences a young person can know and it’s one which is societally feared and stigmatised.
Without early recognition this can build unhelpful defenses in young people, affect self-worth, educational attainment and negate outcomes.
We know these impacts are preventable because they’re not just the result of the separation but how it’s collectively responded to.
We know it needs to be recognised and healed on community levels and supported by our schools and systems, not just by the remaining care giver or behind closed doors.
Girls, their siblings and families need to be supported via the sharing and normalising of the experience with one another as well as with those of us who have already walked that path and understand it.
This project is therefore dedicated to building grassroots community networks around the early loss of mothering and to linking in with professional and statutory services as needed.
Aims & Values
We aim to deepen awareness around how society shapes experiences of childhood loss or disconnection, challenge outmoded cultural norms such as the death taboo which isolates families, and ultimately to foster community cohesion.
There’s strength in numbers. Repair is all about connection to our peers who ‘get it’, connection to our selves and connection to the greater whole to which we all belong.
Make friends with others who understand, have your back and have fun while you’re at it!
Emotional expression and the sharing your feelings in a safe, space supercharges your life, dismantles defences and restores trust!
Connection doesn’t come with conditions and it doesn’t cost anything to make local friends who understand you.